Advice for Girls – Don’t Choose the Bad Boy (30/365)

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Being a seventh grade teacher is tough for a number of reasons, but one of them is because the girls are infatuated with boys.  Any time they start talking about who they like or who’s their boyfriend, I always say to them, “You know.  All young love ends in tragedy.  Get ready because it’s going to end badly.”  It’s a horrible thing to say, but it’s oh so true.  Middle school boys are complete idiots.  So are high school boys.  A select few college age boys have it together, but for most of us, it takes at least 25 years of life until we are mature enough to handle a relationship appropriately.

I blame the media.  As a literature teacher, I see these girls reading these horribly fake love scenarios.  

Brooke thought she was going to have another boring summer even though she was turning sixteen until a new family with a dangerously handsome teenage son named Aspen moves next door.  The only problem is Aspen is more interested in fixing his motorcycle and fighting mountain lions to ever notice Brooke, or so she thought…

Come on!  What boy named Aspen rides a Harley motorcycle?  I’d better stop, because I don’t think it is proper for me to judge other books or other authors.  That is probably a line I don’t want to cross, especially since I am a wannabe author, so I’m going to have to speak in generalities for this post.

The thing that is bothering me, though, is “romantic” books where the “good girl” falls for the “bad boy” and somehow her love tames the wild beast of a man.  Then they live happily ever after.  These so called romance novels should immediately get recategorized into fantasy.

That’s not life.  That’s not how it works.  You know what happens when you pick a “bad boy” to try and tame?  They treat you horribly, and you are left with two choices.  You either leave because that is what any sane person would do, or you hold on and they change from a bad boy to a really really bad boy.

Hey girl. I don't give a crap about you, but you'll love me anyway.

Hey girl. I don’t give a crap about you, but you’ll love me anyway.

In real life, jerks, once you get to know them, end up being bigger jerks.  That’s my advice for today.  Don’t worry though.  All is not lost.  The nice boys that are out there, there is still enough bad in them once you get to know them better.


  1. Great advice. I can picture freeways full of good girls riding on the back of Harley’s with bad boys. The tables will turn and the books will be about bad girls falling for good boys.

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