My kids are an inspiration to me, in so many ways, but I’d like to highlight one example where they are making me a better person, that is, until I hurt myself following their lead.
I have an expression I coined for myself whenever I am learning a new task. I call this “The Stupid Stage”. It’s not the nicest phrase, but that’s how I feel whenever I am trying to do something new. I feel so stupid because I don’t understand how to do this new task, and I’m afraid other people will watch me and think, “That guy looks so stupid!”
I bring this up because over the weekend, my kids, my wife, and I all went cross country skiing. Now, I’ve only tried cross country skiing a few times in my life, so I‘m pretty awful at it. I’ve never been able to move out of “The Stupid Stage”. I awkwardly try to push through the snow as I go uphill, and pray I don’t fall on the downhills.
My kids are my inspiration. They don’t even think about how good or bad they are at it. They just strap on the skis and get after it. There is no worries about “The Stupid Stage” To them, starting out something new is “The Funny Stage”.
They don’t care if they fall or fail. Matter of fact, once they get the hang of something, it just makes them even more bold. For instance, my five year old fell a lot when skiing, but he kept on getting after it. Once he was halfway good, he wanted to try the hills again and again. I wish he had some sense of fear, or worries about what other people think, but nope, he doesn’t. None of them do. They don’t listen to their parents worries or concerns, like, “Slow down. You might fall. Don’t try that…”
I want to be like them. I want to take more risks in life and not worry about how I look. That’s how I can learn. No more “The Stupid Stage” expression for me. I now will embrace “The Funny Stage.” Well, I do worry about falling down when I’m trying to ski. It hurts when you’re old and you fall, but it does look funny.